Self-Discovery and Healing: My Journey and Approach to Counselling

“It seems to me that the good life is not any fixed state. […] The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination.” Carl Rogers

My path to becoming a counsellor wasn’t straight; it had many bumps along the way, full of self-discovery. Looking back, I can see how those experiences shaped me as a person and into the empathetic and understanding counsellor I strive to be today. My journey began many years ago, during a time of darkness (yes, I am showing my age).

Like many who find themselves in therapy, I have visited counsellors before, but something was missing. I’d share enough to get through the sessions but never truly opened up. The result? No real growth, no healing from the traumas and experiences that had brought me to therapy in the first place. It felt like I was going through the motions, never truly addressing the root of my pain.

Then, I met that counsellor. The experience was transformative. From the moment I walked in, I knew it was different. I felt seen, heard, and validated in a way I hadn’t before. There was no judgment, only acceptance. My feelings, however difficult, were normalized. A seed of hope was planted for the first time: healing was possible if I allowed myself the time.

That counsellor sparked a realization: I wanted to offer that same space, that same sense of hope, to others. I wanted to sit across from someone and offer the healing I had finally found. But life, as it often does, had more lessons in store. I needed to continue my own journey of growth and truly understand the value of therapy in my own life.

Over the years, numerous therapists have touched my life, each contributing to my healing journey. They taught me a crucial lesson: healing isn’t linear. There are ups and downs, setbacks and breakthroughs. I am deeply grateful for each therapist who guided me through suicidal ideation, substance abuse, the impact of childhood sexual abuse, identity struggles, and the challenges of mental health.

Each one helped me learn to empower myself, live authentically, draw on my inner strength, and cultivate empathy for myself and others. These experiences are not just part of my personal story; they inform my practice as a counsellor.

Walking Alongside You:

My personal experiences have given me a unique understanding of my clients’ stories. I haven’t just studied these struggles; I’ve lived them. Like many, I sought counselling to understand complex family dynamics and human behaviour, driven by my own less-than-ideal family experiences. I yearned to understand the intricate healing process theoretically and from the inside out. This personal quest for understanding has become the foundation of my practice.

I’ve walked the path of overcoming adversity and know firsthand that it’s not always easy. That’s why I don’t just sit across from my clients; I walk alongside them as they navigate their own unique journeys. I understand the ups and downs, the unexpected roadblocks, and the moments of doubt that can arise. Because I’ve been there, I can offer professional support, genuine empathy, and unwavering support. I get it.

I have witnessed this same resilience in my clients—the same anxieties, a flicker of hope, and a burning desire for change and growth that I recognized in myself years ago. Witnessing their courage and commitment to healing is incredibly inspiring. It has solidified my belief that human experiences, while deeply personal, are often universal. We may walk different paths, but the desire for connection, healing, and growth unites us all.

This shared humanity fuels my passion for this work. It’s not just a job; it’s a calling. I am genuinely excited to work with each client, to learn their story, and to witness their transformation. There’s nothing more rewarding than seeing someone discover their inner strength, embrace their authentic self, and create a life filled with meaning and purpose. I am honoured to be a part of their journey, offer the same kind of support and hope I once received, and empower them to create the change they seek. I believe in the power of the human spirit to heal and thrive, and I am continually amazed by the resilience and courage I see in my clients. It’s a privilege to walk alongside them as they uncover their potential and create the lives they deserve.

My Approach: Empowerment, Authenticity, Strength, and Empathy:

As a counsellor, I am passionate about creating a safe and supportive space for my clients. My approach is rooted in my personal experiences and professional training. I believe in the power of every individual’s story and the innate wisdom we all carry within.

I am committed to the values that shape my practice and my life:

• Empowerment: I believe in your potential. I will support you as you find your voice, build your confidence, and make choices aligned with your authentic self.

  
  

• Authenticity: You deserve to be who you truly are. I offer a safe space to explore your values, ideas, and identity, embracing every facet of who you are.

  
  

• Strength: Resilience is within you, even if it feels hidden. I will help you recognize and build upon your strengths, developing new skills to face life’s challenges.

  
  

• Empathy: I strive to be fully present with you, truly hearing and validating your experiences. Our work together will be built on mutual respect and understanding, creating a compassionate environment for healing.

  
  

I’ve always been a helper and advocate, bringing that passion to every session. Whether you’re navigating trauma, exploring your identity, or seeking understanding, I am here. My commitment to personal growth and continuous learning allows me to offer the most effective tools and approaches to our work together. Healing is possible. And I’m here to walk with you on your journey.